Pets allow couples to practice teamwork. They also create relationship proving grounds, where romantic partners decide household rules and negotiate rough spots. Whether it’s a fuss over pet behavior or allergies, pets need not push couples to the brink, forcing someone to shout, "It’s me or the dog/cat!"
If you and your sweetheart butt heads over a pet, here's expert advice on what to do to avoid a showdown over pet bonding, pet behavior, or pet allergies.
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Sophia Yin, DVM, a veterinarian with San Francisco Veterinary Specialists and author of several books, including How to Behave So Your Dog Behaves, says that if a dog or cat seems not to like someone, the real issue is pre-existing fear of new people or situations.
Fear/stress behaviors can worsen during courtship, hitting critical mass when couples move in together, especially if pets:
Hide and/or soil inside the house
Bark, whine, or fuss
Yin says counterconditioning, in which the pet learns to link someone or something with food or play, can ease pets into a more comfortable relationship.
Pet Behavior: When Household Rules Get Set
Couples also argue over household rules related to pet behavior, such as:
Whether to allow pets on the furniture or in the kitchen
How pets should behave inside the home, including at mealtime, playtime, and bedtime
Whether to allow the pet to kiss or jump on people as signs of affection
Even if the couple agrees, getting the dog or cat to comply may be another matter. If you have never trained your pet to respond to requests, Yin says the ensuing frustration can trigger people without any pet training experience "to be mean to the dog or cat and make things worse."
Pet Allergies: When Pets Make You Sick
Pet allergies have become increasingly common in the last 60 years, because of lifestyle changes and jumps in pet ownership, from 56% to 62% since 1988.
Yet, J. Allen Meadows, MD, a board certified allergist and member of the American College of Allergy, Asthma, and Immunology, tells WebMD that 20% to 30% of his clients technically aren’t allergic to anything; it takes an allergy test to tell for sure.
And, your partner may not be allergic to all dogs because each one may carry just two or three of 20 possible allergens. "With cats, it’s the opposite," Meadows says. "Your lions, your tigers, your kitty cats, all carry the same allergen."
If your partner is allergic to your dog or cat, the American College of Allergy, Asthma, and Immunology recommends taking these steps:
Replace carpeting with hard surfaces.
Limit or remove fabric upholstered furniture.
Make the bedroom and closets pet-free zones.
Wash bedding and curtains regularly with one of three techniques:
Use 140 F water, which is 20 degrees hotter than scalding
Wash at any temperature with two rinses
Wash in a steam washing machine
Use tightly woven materials for all bedding, including mattress and pillow covers.