Giving Pets as Gifts: Think Twice
Follow these 4 rules before giving someone a dog or cat as a gift.
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3. Give pet as gift to immediate family only. Sometimes a friend might accept a pet as a gift because they just don't know how to say no. That's one reason Arms suggests giving pets as gifts only to your immediate family -- husband, wife, or kids.
And even then, it's important to make sure it's a family decision, says Atlanta veterinarian Jean Sonnenfield, DVM, because "when you get a pet, it is like having a child. There are a lot of financial, emotional, and time concerns."
Sonnenfield says the unconditional love you get from a pet is amazing, but it does come with work. And vet bills. And walks. And flea medication. And unintended messes. So be sure.
4. Avoid impulse. Whether you want to give a pet to the kids or to a friend, don't do it on impulse, Arms says. If you're going to the store for a quart of milk and you see a child out front with a box of cute kittens or puppies, resist. "You weren't going there for a pet."
Acting on impulse also doesn't give you (or the recipient) the chance to select a pet by size, activity level, and temperament, all important factors when choosing a pet, Sonnenfield says.
When You Don't Want a Pet as a Gift
After you waxed lyrical about your childhood pet, your neighbor surprised you with the gift of a puppy or kitten. Unfortunately, you don't want a pet. What do you do?
- Thank the giver. Even if a pet is the last thing you were hoping for, remember that the giver meant well, says Post, so "be gracious. It goes back to the basics of etiquette; be honest, respectful, and considerate."
- Decline the gift. After you've thanked the giver, decline their gift gracefully -- and quickly. Most purchased pets do have a return policy within a certain timeframe, Sonnenfield says.
- Or, accept the gift and find the pet a good home. Unfortunately, not every gifted pet can be returned. In that instance, Arms suggests accepting the pet, then taking out an ad, screening potential owners, and finding a good home for the pet. "It's the kindest thing you can do." Although relinquishing the pet to a shelter would make it easy on you, that puts "all the onus on a facility that's overcrowded to begin with," Arms says.
As for the grandmother with the bulldog puppy, that story could have gone very badly, Van Zante says. "She felt horrible when she surrendered her gift to us." Fortunately the tale had a happy ending. The boisterous young dog "went home with a great young family that wanted a puppy and had lots of time to spend with it," Van Zante says.
And fortunately, it's in your power to make sure any pet you give as a gift has the same happy ending.