You've probably heard urban legends about the elderly lady who has dozens of cats, the guy who collects snakes and never leaves his house, or someone who spends thousands on clothes for their pet.
When Kim Swank, 35, of Layton, Utah, spent $10,000 on treatment for a cherished family member, it wasn’t for her spouse, sibling, or parent -- it was for Wilson, her beloved Pug. "People would approach my husband and say, “I can’t believe you paid 10 grand to keep a dog alive!” My husband’s reply was simply, “Well, it’s cheaper than a divorce!” Swank tells WebMD.
Cesar Millan, the self-taught dog trainer whose television series The Dog
Whisperer has made him famous around the world, is now juggling his TV show
with writing best-selling books, creating DVDs, publishing a magazine, founding
non-profit organizations, even appearing in movies. And he has a wife and two
children. WebMD the Magazine caught up with the busy dog trainer and
asked him about his health habits, his family, and what he's learned about
humans by working with dogs.
Some people believe this sounds like an obsession that could be unhealthy for the person and pet alike. But many others say mind your own business, as long as there's no harm or neglect happening. To them, going to great lengths for their pet is completely rational, caring behavior.
Where is the line between obsession and devotion? Here's what experts told WebMD.
Quality of Life
Dedication and devotion are sometimes mistaken for a preoccupation with pets. But "obsessed" may be an overused word.
“Obsession is a little bit of a negative term. I prefer passionate," pet safety expert Jill Richardson, DVM, tells WebMD. "A passionate pet owner is someone who is their pet's biggest cheerleader," she says. "They make sure their pet is healthy and happy. To them, their pet is part of the family.”
But if your health or the pet's quality of life suffers, that's an unhealthy obsession.
“If a person is obsessed, they may not realize that they or the pet is suffering," Richardson says. "Sometimes it takes a friend, relative, or vet to point out the problem. One of the most common situations is when a pet has a terminal condition that is hopeless and the pet owners do not consider euthanasia," Richardson says.
"My professional opinion about being obsessed with anything is whether or not one loses a sense of balance and the child, animal, or object of obsession takes over one's entire life,” La Jolla, Calif. psychotherapist Cathy Conheim, LCSW, tells WebMD.
If you suspect you have an unhealthy obsession with your pet, professional treatment is recommended.