You've probably heard urban legends about the elderly lady who has dozens of cats, the guy who collects snakes and never leaves his house, or someone who spends thousands on clothes for their pet.
When Kim Swank, 35, of Layton, Utah, spent $10,000 on treatment for a cherished family member, it wasn’t for her spouse, sibling, or parent -- it was for Wilson, her beloved Pug. "People would approach my husband and say, “I can’t believe you paid 10 grand to keep a dog alive!” My husband’s reply was simply, “Well, it’s cheaper than a divorce!” Swank tells WebMD.
Pets allow couples to practice teamwork. They also create relationship proving grounds, where romantic partners decide household rules and negotiate rough spots. Whether it’s a fuss over pet behavior or allergies, pets need not push couples to the brink, forcing someone to shout, "It’s me or the dog/cat!"
If you and your sweetheart butt heads over a pet, here's expert advice on what to do to avoid a showdown over pet bonding, pet behavior, or pet allergies.
Some people believe this sounds like an obsession that could be unhealthy for the person and pet alike. But many others say mind your own business, as long as there's no harm or neglect happening. To them, going to great lengths for their pet is completely rational, caring behavior.
Where is the line between obsession and devotion? Here's what experts told WebMD.
Quality of Life
Dedication and devotion are sometimes mistaken for a preoccupation with pets. But "obsessed" may be an overused word.
“Obsession is a little bit of a negative term. I prefer passionate," pet safety expert Jill Richardson, DVM, tells WebMD. "A passionate pet owner is someone who is their pet's biggest cheerleader," she says. "They make sure their pet is healthy and happy. To them, their pet is part of the family.”
But if your health or the pet's quality of life suffers, that's an unhealthy obsession.
“If a person is obsessed, they may not realize that they or the pet is suffering," Richardson says. "Sometimes it takes a friend, relative, or vet to point out the problem. One of the most common situations is when a pet has a terminal condition that is hopeless and the pet owners do not consider euthanasia," Richardson says.
"My professional opinion about being obsessed with anything is whether or not one loses a sense of balance and the child, animal, or object of obsession takes over one's entire life,” La Jolla, Calif. psychotherapist Cathy Conheim, LCSW, tells WebMD.
If you suspect you have an unhealthy obsession with your pet, professional treatment is recommended.